3 Things to Remember Before Dating Someone

Sharon Moore May 22, 2014

Dating – it gives us both pleasure and anxiety. The process of getting to know someone can be complicated. This is the stage wherein we are still trying to gauge everything about the other person. We wanted to be nice as much as possible but we also want to be true and honest with our feelings. The following are some dating tips and advice that are backed with scientific research. Consider them the next time you decide on dating someone.

Sharing has limitations.

It’s understandable that you really want this person to know more about you just as you want him/her to know you more. But research shows that much self-revelation in the initial stages of dating can do more harm than good. Insecure and anxious people are more likely to share a great deal of information on a first encounter and do a lot of talking. These people may seem so interesting than other people you’ve met. But later, as the relationship has been established, anxiety issues may backfire, and could become a nuisance for both partners.

Humour is not all times funny.

Most of us are attracted to people with a sense of humour. His or her humour could lift your mood, make you smile (even laugh) and brighten up your day. But humour can also be an effective disguise for insecure people who are avoidant of relationships. If you’re beginning to feel as though you’re at a comedy club, watch out. Take note that a secure person doesn’t need to be a laugh riot. His or her desire for connection must be felt, above all things.

It’s not always the story, but how it is told.

Dating is, as mentioned, the getting-to-know stage. This person may have a very interesting life story but you don’t want to stick to it. Listen to both the content of a story and the way it’s told. How a person tells a story, and how coherent his/her narrative is, can tell you a lot about his or her personality. Yes, you have to “read between the lines”. Pay attention to his/her eyes, gestures, and non-verbal cues. Ask yourself – is this person trying to make sense of experience or just being a reporter? Is he or she just trying to impress you or wanting to connect with you?

And here’s another important thing to remember – have fun! Lighten up. You could just be spending an hour or two with that person. Make it a worthwhile experience. Just consider the above guidelines and you have good chances of finding a potential mate.